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Posted by: Name Removed to Protect the Ignorant
I was sitting at home a little bit stressed out because I’m finding life to be somewhat difficulty for me right now in my twenties. As I was sitting down staring at nothing, I asked myself a question. Does life get easier or more difficult from this point on. I figured maybe I can ask other people who know more about this subject. I guess this question is for older people because they have more experience.
Which age decade do you think is the most difficult in life?
10 – 20
20 – 30
30 – 40
50 and beyond?
I feel confident in saying that if you were considered an adult at 13 you probably wouldn’t be having the same feelings you are now *if* your stress is because of acclimating to adult decisions and responsibilities or if the social infrastructure were different.
This is the kind of question that is hard to answer because it is based on frames and it’s hardly worth answering but I have pet peeves about them so I will.
I still have most of my decades to go so I can’t say and I’m not sure how to answer your question because there is none.
But the hardest decade can only be one of the following two or both:
1) Whatever decade happens to be the hardest personally and that is an individual thing because you can’t predict what is going to happen to a person; sickness, divorce, whatever. It could even be 1.5 decades or 2.3 or .6 of that decade.
2) The decade where you come into that has or begins to put pressure on a person may be the hardest to deal with because of social disapproval or social limitation based on conditioning and prejudices having to do with anything that matters to that particular individual, so even then it is still unique to the individual, ie. if you put a lot of importance on your youth then your hardest decade may be the one you enter in which society in general perceives people to be over the hill – if society didn’t or it were a different age then it probably wouldn’t affect the person or it wouldn’t affect the person if they didn’t care about the social presumption.
Even your way of asking about “decades” including your positioning of them in multiples starting at the points you did (10, 20, 30, 40, 50) is a part of your paradigm. Why not ask what 5.7 year period is the hardest on a person? Why not 43 to 53? 36 to 46? Most people reach puberty at around 12 or 13 so maybe it’s 2 to 12 or why not 12 to 22? Because you think the way you’ve been conditioned and this is why I do not believe in age, gender or ethnic demographic targeting because they are used presumptuously and when it works the only reason is because the prospect is a cookie cutter individual who has no real individuality but abounds in superficiality.
Just look at how you said “10 to 20″, “20 to 30″, “30 to 40″ BUT THEN YOU SAID “50 and over” as if everything above 50 deserves to be lumped together and there is little distinction between 50s and 80s.
The only “satisfactory” answer that can be given to a question like yours is one that does not conflict with your modality, not to mention I don’t know the exact reason for your stress
So, sorry if this wasn’t helpful although it can be if you really understand what I’m saying and make a shift.
Sancho
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I was 65 last week and though reaching a second 65th at 130 seems a bit unlikely I’d like to keep going – the alternative isn’t very appealing to me!!
I’m struggling with debt and not yet making an income on line, but I’m determined to make the breakthrough and turn my efforts into a Pension Plan worth having.
It’s an impossible question for anyone else to answer in the way you’ve asked it but I will say that I was a very tense, insecure young man through my 20′s, even though I was a Commissioned Army Officer and married happily at 22! My 30′s were spent getting much more serious about my work and family responsibilities, but I really enjoyed both. I had a shock on my 40th birthday with a Blue Light ride to a German Hospital, thinking that my heart had given out on me – but it was low blood sugar after Chicken Pox and too much circuit training with our Unit Athletics Team – this sort of thing changes your perspective a bit!!
My 40′s were fun, but very hard work – I left the Army early after 29 years as my prospects faded and gave up Athletics, Shooting and smoking cigarettes. I can tell you that 7 months “On The Dole” being unemployed in an area where jobs were very hard to come by was another of those experiences that you don’t forget in a hurry – but all these things are what make you as a character………. who is to say which age is best for you – just get out there and experience it! My 50′s were very hard work as a Drs’ Surgery Manager, self employed Seaside Hotelier and Retailer (Shop Keeper).
Now I’m 65 and under pressure in this depressing Recession, but life is full of exciting opportunities that I’d love to have had when I was in my 20′s!!
When I was a lad we didn”t even have running water or electricity in my first 3 homes and now we can webinar on Camera with people in their homes across the globe………
It’s an amazing place – and there’s so much to do and see that no wonder you feel a bit over-awed maybe and can’t think where to start……….. Try thinking outside the box is my best advice, you have time, you have youth and energy, there is so much you can achieve if you just give opportunities a try….
one of them will almost certainly turn out to be just the move for you………. but you have to try them!
John
Um…
…sorry “Sancho”, what has this to do with copywriting?
I’ve read this and re-read this and I don’t get it.
I could say it plainly but I’m trying to get people to think, “Robert”
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